Domestic Violence Awareness: Sex is Not Affection
Hey #Stormchasers October is Storm Jennings Enterprises busiest month with all the charities and causes we support. Today, I want to bring attention to Domestic Violence. Did you know 1 in 4 women have experienced violence by a spouse or boyfriend in her lifetime. Look to your left and to your right one of you have had to deal with this startling static. I wanted to do just more then donate and wear purple to bring awareness. I wanted to chat with you from my heart.
Today I want you to think about some of the behaviors and or habits that women have, most women equate “physical activity” with genuine affection. Just because he is having sex with you does not mean he genuinely loves or even likes you. You are convenient and comfortable for him. He’s comfortable enough with you that he talks to you in ways that disregards you an equal, he dismisses you as having value. He calls you out of your given name, but he conveniently softens up and tries to swoon you when he wants to have sex with you.
Listen, there are many roads and scenarios to domestic abuse, I wanted to shine light on one that is subtle and often overlooked. When you mistake sexual activity for affection it is the quickest way to let your guard down. And this is not just an issue for women, men experience domestic abuse as well but there are more cases of women and children having lost their lives due to violence than men.
I need you to remain sober in your thinking in both your relationships and casual interactions. Women think and move with their hearts and it’s difficult to make good decisions when your emotions and heart are attached to someone or something. You do not have to fall victim to these unfortunate situations that turn into life or death for you and your children.
I want to admonish you to give deep thought to some of your previous relationships and your behavior/habits. See if you can recognize the signs of the dropping of your guard and the relaxing off your reflexes. I’m not trying to invoke fear, I want you to live in triumph. They way we all live in triumph is to be equipped with information and apply it to our lives.
Too often what happens to us is a direct result of us not preparing ourselves for potential outcomes. When you feel a cold trying to attack your body it is very subtle a sneeze here, running eyes there if you get your immune system primed up with vitamin C and keep yourself hydrated and get rest you will more than likely avoid a full-blown cold.
Domestic violence usually starts off with small symptoms and we don’t recognize them because we have let down our defenses with sex, and then we misinterpret sex for affection. And all this leads to miscommunications and misunderstandings. Upon embarking your relationships use your intelligence to help you make the best decision and to help you to recognize potential red flags.
I want you around for as long as God sees fit for you to remain and carry out your purpose in life. If you are in a current situation where you see signs, but you are unsure, and you need some assistance please call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). This is the national domestic violence hotline. They will be able to get you the help you need for your area. If you need websites that offer assistance, please use www.loveisrespect.org or www.ndvh.org.
In the meantime, while you are getting formal help I encourage you to keep praying and to get one family member and/or friend you trust to be in faith with you and to assist you until the full cavalry is able to get you and your children to a safe location and or to a safer place of thought and behaviors. Don’t think about it, think, plan and act.
I love all my Stormchasers we stand in this together.